(Note: I've watched this video all of one time before it was pulled from YouTube, so I haven't much to add, but yeah, obviously, the controversy is based on the "woman with a revenge fantasy" trope, and it's a little more nuanced than that, and instead of condemning Rihanna, or demanding her video be pulled, how about using it as a means to spearhead discussions on women and agency, and the "good victim" stereotype?)
I find the absence of that song peculiar in these discussions, but I think–this is my theory anyway–it’s because the moment of that song–as she and her abuser are both about home, both about to finish what his stint in jail interrupted–doesn’t give room for sanctimony. It’s easy to pearl clutch once the dude is dead–”Oh, how terrible that Rihanna made a video in which a man [who rapes her character] is gunned down!” “Oh, how terrible that Garth Brooks sings about a woman who kills her [abusive] husband!” “Oh, it’s the end of the world that The Dixie Chicks make light of a woman and her friend murdering her [abusive] husband!” But when you’re in that moment before the confrontation–where you know as well as the singer that only one of them is going to come out standing–it’s harder to object. (Tiny Cat Pants)
Yes, Rihanna may simply be a good celebrity target, but it is utterly disturbing the manner in which any portraits that offer complicated, three dimensional representations of Black women are now unceremoniously banned from the air. These days, Black women and our experiences of rape and sexual violence are forced into invisibility when they don’t fit mainstream, pristine narratives of how to cope. Whether it be Rihanna’s teenaged fans, immigrants working as hotel maids all over this country, eleven year old Latina girls in Texas, or the Black girl next door to you, women of color are deemed deviant even for voicing our narratives of rape and sexual assault, especially when our stories insinuate that we are morally complex human beings. That is unfortunate, dangerous, and frankly infuriating. (The Crunk Feminist Collective)Here's a fantastic thread on Tumblr about race, gender, and the society's expectations -- who we "allow" to have these kinds of emotions. Aerosmith's "Janie's Got a Gun" is referenced here, a twenty-year-old video with a similar theme. And also via Tumblr, Cara from The Curvature compares "Man Down" to the uproar over Thelma and Louise, and makes some important points about "Man Down" being as much about self-defense as it is revenge:
But the point is that it doesn’t even occur to most people that she might not have been killing (only) out of revenge, but out of self-defense. That she might have been actively protecting her safety. Because they don’t understand the fact that you don’t know whether your abuser is ever going to come back, that you don’t know whether they’re going to harm you again. They don’t know what it’s like (or don’t make the connection between it and these actions) to constantly look over your shoulder, to never ever feel safe, to know that you never, ever will until/unless that abuser gone.
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