Like a handful of the commenters, I don't think demi- and asexuality should be part of the equation.
“Demisexuality” is part of the “asexual” grouping. I’d tell you what it means, but demisexual people are confused about it too (and you’ll find about 100 conflicting definitions out there), so I’ll give my understanding. Demisexuality is when people only feel sexual desire for those whose personality they like, or to whom they are emotionally attracted. In other words, they make up most of the population. But they’re very oppressed, if you ask some of them. Oppressed how, exactly? No one knows, but you can’t expect them to provide any evidence. That would be wrong.I'm not that active in Tumblr's SJ blogging community, but most of what I've read that's been written by those who identify as demisexual or asexual stresses how not oppressed they are, at least compared to their more identifiably queer counterparts. Also, some members of the asexual community identify as queer or hetero in addition to being asexual. The definition of demisexuality given here is pretty reductive. AVEN's Wiki page says, "According to one hypothetical model, a person who identifies as a demisexual does not experience primary sexual attraction but does experience secondary sexual attraction. In this model, primary sexual attraction is based on outward qualities such as a person's looks, clothes, or personality while secondary sexual attraction is attraction stemming from a connection, usually romantic, or from status or how closely the person is in relationship to the other."
As for those identifying as "transethnic" and "transablebed," eh... I'm pretty sure you'll get no sympathy from people who've experience actual racism or ableism. I'm reminded what Riki Wilchins said about gender being understood as more unstable and incontestable than race: "deconstructing gender [and sexuality] is accepted in a way that deconstructing race is not."
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